Are you in love with someone? 


There are some psychological love techniques.  If you use one of them, you can make someone more interested in you.  Have you ever heard the word, "Tundere"?  "Tundere" is a Japanese word which is used to describe a personality type, especially in a romantic situation.  This word is derived from "tsun-tsun", meaning haughty, and "dere-dere", meaning lovely- dovey.  So someone can be cold and strict in public, but become lovely-dovey under certain conditions, for example, when you and your partner are alone together.  How do you think it works?




This effect can be demonstrated psychologically.  It's called "gain-loss effect".  It works when the gap is bigger between gain and loss.  I'll introduce an anecdote to help illustrate how the "gain-loss effect" works. Mary works hard, is earnest, wearing a formal suit and a black trouser every day. Ann always smiles and works, wearing a casual suit and a vivid skirt.  One day the company held an official party, both ladies each wore a one-piece dress.  Can you guess what happened?  Most people gazed at Mary.  What important is not about good looks but to show something others don't expect. You just need to give a big impression.  The size of the impression can affect the amount of interest genetically.  If he or she is interested in somebody or something, we can't help thinking about it. This is a trick of a "gain-loss effect".





Regarding "gaiin-loss effect" of "tundere",  I would explain the following thing. You are always haughty and strict.  Nobody will expect that you are kind and adorable.  And then, when you go to a haunted house with your boyfriends, you are afraid of it and grab his sleeves or so.  The guy must be interested in you.   So if your partner has a bad impression of you, think of it as a good chance. You ought to take advantage of it.  It’ll be easy to catch your partner’s eye.





This "gain-loss effect" is used in many ways.  If you have a relationship for a long time and you think you need a change of pace, you should try it.  If you usually date inside, why don't you go outside?  It is often used on birthdays in order to surprise your partner or friends.  First you need let them down.  And then you should do something surprising. For example, today is Mary's birthday.  Of course, she expects she can get something from her boyfriend.  Yet, unfortunately he doesn't give anything during their date. Being disappointed, she goes home. She gets home and sees a special gift  from him that was delivered. In this case, her joy will be bigger than if he just gave a present directly during their date; however, you must remember not disappoint your partner too much before you surprise your partner.

So if you are in love with someone, please use this "gain-loss effect". Trust me and just do it.